Well, there isn't much dating over the holidays as you can imagine. Being the kind of guy that's been used to a relationship with a woman who was his soul-mate, Christmas just isn't the same single. Luckily I have Lily and we're having fun hanging out as only fathers and daughters can do. Such a unique bond. But I'm thinking about dating and sorting through my up-and-down emotions on the process (a lot of down lately).
I'll be enjoying myself with the family and leaving the rest for now to the universe. I remind myself once again that I'm not in charge nor am I in control. I only have how I decide to bring myself to the events of my life, and that's actually a gift in itself.
What I know now from my experiences in dating again is that a deep energy has been re-awakened in me that I can love again and I can find another soul-mate. So despite the difficulties and emotional setbacks along the way, I know I'm fine and I have no need to rush - just be with those that share my views and love them along the way. And accept with grace those that do not. And to remember what is possible from those that have helped me along the way.
Recently, I filled out a set of questions online designed to help you get the perfect match. Normally I'm skeptical of those things, but this one did seem to sum me up fairly well. I felt a nervous chuckle when I first read this and thought, What the heck, if this is so close I'll post it! I mean, isn't that what a risk taker, high energy, optimistic guy does who seeks predictability? So it goes ...
This person takes risks in love and charges out into the world. They also like to know a great deal about who they are with and what this relationship is all about. This is the kind of person who knows their strengths and knows what they like in another person. Once this person knows they are on firm, familiar and worthy ground, they will take on a tough project, or go after a romantic relationship with a lot of enthusiasm and a strong belief that they can make things work. But, this person may usually feel this way only if they are with the kind of people that they have liked/loved in the past, or it is the kind of deal they understand because they have done something like it before. In general, this person likes dating a similar kind of person (same class, a certain look, similar goals and values), than someone exotic. This person takes their risks elsewhere.
From what I read I am compatible with a woman with the same kind of personality or with complementary traits with these characteristics:
This person has a commanding and attractive personality. They like to take the lead, but are not compulsive about how life should be organized, or a stickler for lots of rules and must-do's in a relationship. This person has an easy-going temperament, and is willing and able to include a lot of communication in the relationship. They need to reach out to a partner to feel they are in an intimate relationship, and want the same kind of sharing from the one they love. Women find men of this type very compelling: The mixture of dominance and compromise in their character and their stable, non-aggressive temperament will strike many as just the right balance. Add their willingness to share what they're feeling, and this person will almost surely be sought after. This is also a great personality for women. Men who like a woman with a strong personality will most likely find an FDTE warm, low maintenance and emotionally together.
I, as your Mom, feel that someday, soon, you will hit the "jackpot" and find the perfect person. Don't give up.
Love, Mom
Posted by: mom | Sunday, 17 February 2008 at 04:18 PM