I wasn't really sleeping well tonight so I got up to just sit quietly in the house, sip some warm tea and remember Sharon. I found this piece from the eulogy I wrote for her and I simply felt compelled to repost it. Just seems to ring as true now for me as it did back then with regards to my life and how I want to live it. I hope it does for others.
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The core of Sharon’s soul was about learning about herself (and helping you learn about yourself) so you could more fully join with all that is one – and with each other and with life. You’ll find this in the lyrics of the songs she loved, like Vienna Teng’s Soon Love Soon. It was true of the books and movies and dreams that Sharon most commented about over the years.
What made Sharon such an enigma, I think, was her ability to bring this philosophy (though I don’t think she’d ever use that word much) to each moment of her life and our lives without any dogma. She seemed to instinctively know there was more than what you saw in front of you during those moments of upset, anguish, frustration. She knew there was more than just saying life is good or bad. She was always seeking a deeper meaning that led to love. Sharon was all about helping us find that sacred moment in everything that occurs in our lives every hour of every day.
She wasn’t selling anything. She wasn’t trying to enroll you into something you didn’t want to do or see (well, ok, maybe sometimes during moments of self-inflicted resistance when I didn’t want to listen …).
But don’t you know that I’m saying here? The lyrics that capture this best are from John Lennon’s Imagine:
Imagine there's no heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today...
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...
Sharon was simply offering to love you as you are and bring to you a thought that there is more. More to life beyond what your mind was yammering at any moment of complication or anger or grief. Sharon just seemed to know each moment in life had a gift for you inside your mind and body.
You just had to be patient and willing to notice and apply some discipline in your personal processes. And to remember to love yourself along the way. In our 20 years of life together, Sharon never seemed to ever forget the importance of offering these truths.
Sharon, I love you, my dear. I miss you.
Forever yours – your friend, your lover and your husband,
Tom
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